In the end I have gone Arch Linux, infact im using it right now to post this.
Now all I need to do is work on the desktop more, tis tricky and fun at the same time.
Im really enjoying this OS but very true on the OMG!! whats up with that? how do I get a default file manager to stick! Why is my pypanel not autoloading when I swear the told me to put it into the .xinitrc file? am I use the wrong syntax.
gotta say I'm kinda loving openbox WM. Think I'm gonna be working on this task for a while haha, will get back to doing the HTS missions abit laterz